Many of us have said these very words. At one time or another, we’ve been played or have played another person in the name of “love”. So why would anyone want to break down love and dating to horse racing, or any sport for that matter? As I’ve stated many times, “Love is not a competition.”
Love and relationships are a team sport; it takes two people. And depending on how you swing there may be more or less. And to quote another sport metaphor, “A team is only as strong as its weakest player.” In order to have a strong relationship, we need to be strong people. And in order to be strong person, we need to understand some of our shortcomings and missteps that may be sabotaging that great relationship.
Times changed and old advice and rules no longer apply. Over the decades relationships roles reversed and equality between the sexes grew. Women came out of the kitchen and joined the workforce. Men chose to stay home and raise families. Some folks advanced faster than the times, some are holding on for dear life and others can't seem to get a grip. Dating and relationships for some are exasperating. But it can be extremely freeing.
Today, like never before in history men and women and even homosexuals have more freedom to truly be with the one they love. No more do race, religion and status keep us from being with our highest love. In fact for some the love goes beyond distance and time. We can have the love we always dreamed impossible.
So why are many holding old ideals of relationships and the means to obtain them? Why embrace someone who isn't right for you? Why settle when there is someone better for you. Why sacrifice life's calling for someone who is holding you back?
I do not want to dismiss traditional relationships. They are very valuable to society. But traditional relationships are not for everyone. We have the choice not to get married. We have the choice to have long distance relationships. We have the choice to be single and independent. We have the choice to have many lovers. It is an awesome time for love. The question we should ask ourselves is, “What kind of love do I want?” Once we decide what we want, the next steps are very easy.
Like a champion of any sport there is the deep desire to be a winner despite hardship and adversity. Why should we hold this standard for just sport and occupation? We should strive to be winner in every aspect of our lives and to reach our highest potential. It is only when we reach our highest potential as a person do we find our highest love.
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