Dating Handicapping Tip #10: Understanding competition

The stakes are high in the search for love and the competition is fierce. Walk into any bar, surf the web or even peruse your local book store; it is hard to escape the competition for attention. Mating rituals are animalistic and so handicapping as one would do a horse race is not such a far off concept.



We all in times have pranced around showing ourselves off hoping for a bidder. Human beings however go to extremes - altering our appearance and body, manipulating people and situations and sometimes we even lie. But does the competition really pay off?


Many compete by projecting a perfect appearance and body, flash money and try to impress with success. If you ever watched a horse race there is one shiny horse prancing with his head higher than the others. First impressions indicate that horse is sure thing and winner by looks alone, but during the race the horse falls flat and demonstrates no substance. The superficial may attract bidders, but it does not guarantee it has what it takes to win.


Another form of competition would be deceit. And sadly, more of us do this than we think. How many times have you admitted you like an activity you don’t? How many times have you laughed at a joke you didn’t find funny? How many fought for a cause you didn’t believe in? How many have changed themselves for another person? Although we do this in the name of love, we are doing so in deceit and possibly denying ourselves and our loved ones a true love.


The true love would not have to change, would get the joke and would enjoy the activity? The true love would not have to surrender little white lies to seduce love. And just think if you have to change and deceive to earn love can you really call it love? Wouldn’t you rather be loved by someone who loves you for who and what you are?


And then there is the “once over.” When someone looks you over, and gives you the look of “no competition.” It is the silent way of bullying you out of the picture. Do not fret; this is merely a tactic of the insecure and those who lack understanding of how the dating dance is performed. It is honestly rather sad.


The biggest thing to remember in competition however, regardless of the mating rituals and human behavior there really is NO competition when it comes to real, true love. If you find the competition is too steep for you in love, there is a good chance it is not the right one.