Handicapping a trainer is a lot like handicapping the jockey. As I referred jockeys to past lovers, I would suggest the trainers are the ones who provide us with dating advice (good and bad). These trainers are our friends and family.
As a racehorse trainer can improperly train a horse or have the horse unprepared for the race, so can your friends and family. Friends and family can build you up falsely or shatter your confidence and your chances for love. They can give you bad advice and bad makeovers - all good intentions of course. How do you know if you're dating trainers a properly preparing you for the date?
Sets realistic expectations - Be wary of friends who push you toward unrealistic expectation."In time he will leave his wife for you," or " Give it time he/she will come to their senses." No they won't. You are just putting off the inevitable. If a relationship is in the cards you will never have to ask "Where is this going?" A great love already knows the destination.
Take off the rose colored glasses - If the relationship isn't rosy without the glasses - it's not rosy. Some friends like to encourage relationships even in a parade of waving red flags. If it doesn't feel right...it's not.
The well-meaning makeover - Good intention friends always insist on the makeover. Buy a new wardrobe, makeup, and hair dye. By the time its over you don't feel like yourself. There are many dangers of the makeover and the main one is if you are presenting an image that isn't you will never know if your date likes YOU or the image you are projecting.
Dating advice is best served with many grains of salt. What works for one could be disastrous for another. And so many people will want to encourage you into a love relationship that may not be good for you.
Best advice: know yourself, know what you want and don't let ANYONE try to convince you otherwise. Love takes strength and courage and many fall into bad relationships because they can't say no or fear being alone.
Your own heart and mind will provide your best course for finding love.
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