Many sports heroes experience depression after winning a championship. They put all their efforts and focus in winning one particular prize, or succeed at a singular goal. When they accomplish that goal, what is left to accomplish? What is left for an athlete once he/she wins the championship – another championship? Everything they have put their life into is now done.
What happens when a couple reaches the threshold of marriage? There is celebration and parties. Newlywed couples often find ways to keep the fires burning - a new house, a pet, children. Many times it is attempts to keep the relationship new. But then five years later there is nothing new to celebrate and reality sets in. What happens when the thrill of victory subsides?
Today I read an article that portrays married couples living separate lives. They sleep in separate bedrooms, or at least tolerate each other until death. And many others find other games to play and races to run. Does this seem like a victory? It sounds like an ex-jock turned couch potato. That is hardly the life of a champion.
How do you keep that champion spirit after the thrill of victory is gone? Well, it involves continued training to keep fit. Marriages take work, not just on the relationship and your spouse. You need to continue to work on you to keep your champion form.
But then, you may realize that the prize you earned in your hard work on the path of marriage is not worth the effort. Perhaps you may learn, you never had a champion relationship? Then it is time to move onto greener pastures. The thing to remember, the thrill of victory lasts only as long as the effort and value you put into it.
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