It never fails. You meet someone who sparks your interest. Your first date is what fairytales are made of - candlelit dinners, long walks in the moonlight and a slow deep kiss that makes your heart sing out, "Hello!" By the second date you are making mad passionate love on the kitchen floor and by the third date you're moving in together. Oh joy, you found the love of your life.
One month into cohabitating bliss his leaving the seat up provides some good humor and her constant picking up of socks remains endearing. Month two: he prefers to hang with the boys, but she knows what he is doing. She pulls out the stops to reignite the passion and he'd rather watch the ball game. By month three, the police are at the door arresting him for murder in three states and she returns to her porn career.
Rarely does sprinting to the finish line of a relationship pay off. At some point passions wear out and reality sets in. Why rush it? Rushing into committed relationships has more to do with fulfilling individual needs than working toward a meaningful relationship.
For those in search of a longtime relationship we need to be and we need to look for closers. There is no rush for the closer. They know they ARE a winner and they know they found a winner. Great times are had simply getting to know one another.
Many are hesitant to date the loners. Loners are hard to call - desperados with baggage or devoted souls waiting for the “one”. Often times loners are just plain busy and don't have time to date. Many loners just don't have the patience for the game and would rather be independent then be in a bad relationship. I have a word for loners Wild Horses. Wild Horses are chancy gambles in the game of love, but you might just pick a winner.
Relationships require time to get to know not only the other person, but who you are IN this relationship. If you feel lost, desperate, jealous or angry this relationship is not for you. Time to place another bet.
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